I’m Me and I’m an Introvert

 July 23, 2015
Posted by qc

I recall many times during my childhood feeling like I didn’t belong and that I was inadequate, because of this I shied away from any situation that may have become awkward or I became the centre of attention.

Many conversations I had with people would feel very demanding and I would instantly criticise myself for not registering with their enthusiasm for the topic of discussion. I would also feel unworthy of being in their presence because I didn’t have this overwhelming urge to contribute to the conversation.

During my working life I’ve been lucky enough to have employers that invested in me and sent me on training courses.  Many of these would involve a session on personality traits.  I would never relate to one particular trait and would feel pressure to become something I wasn’t.  Although, the trainers would say ‘everyone is a little bit of each trait’, I wouldn’t feel I was strongly one or the other.

There have been many experiences during my adulthood that have helped me to accept me for me and remove the feelings of inferiority, however it wasn’t until recently I came across as article on introversion.  It was a one of those ‘lightbulb’ moments!

This article explained the following two points that got me very excited, and they allowed me to reiterate my acceptance for myself.

  1. That one-on-one interaction with people is tiring for introverts (introversion is an energy thing, not a ‘shyness’ thing like most people think).
  2. Introverts prefer to only contribute to a conversation when they have something meaningful to add.  Small talk makes us squirm!

After reading this article my mind wandered to times in the past when I’ve been in social situations and felt this way. Although I have very much immersed myself within networking groups with the likes of Venus and Chamber of Commerce I think I will always find it an effort to connect and have to push myself so it doesn’t adversely effect my business.

One of the positives of being an introvert is that we are very good listeners which makes for great relationship building with our clients.  You may know that hearing and listening are two different things.  Hearing requires no effort, listening on the other hand means paying close attention to what the other person is saying.  My husband still argues I don’t listen to him!!

If this articles topic resonates with you, here are a few tips that may help you with the idiosyncrasies of being an introvert:

  • Always prepare – do your research on the person or group you plan to meet.
  • Connect – send a connection request to the person you are meeting with beforehand.  This helps with getting to know them before your first actual meeting.
  • Time out – give yourself a few minutes on your own to recharge.

If you’re an introvert, get in touch and let me know the tips you use to get the best out of your day.

 

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2 comments

  1. Julie
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    That’s so interesting you felt like that as a child. I remember meeting you when I was staying with our mutual friend and thinking how confident you both were, how I felt inferior to you both. It’s so interesting our perseptions as children of what’s going on around us.

    • qc
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      Yes, Julie! Agree wholeheartedly. What we see in others may not necessary be what’s going on behind the scenes.

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